Why Social Emotional Learning Matters for Young Children
Social Emotional Learning (SEL) is not an “extra” in education. It is the foundation for how children learn to understand themselves, interact with others, and make thoughtful choices. While academics are often the focus of early learning, SEL gives children the confidence, resilience, and empathy they need to succeed both in and out of the classroom. By helping children recognize emotions, build relationships, and manage challenges, parents and educators prepare them for lifelong growth.
Why It Matters
For young children, SEL is visible in small but important daily moments. A child who says “I feel sad” instead of throwing a toy shows self-awareness. A child who waits for a turn on the slide instead of pushing ahead demonstrates self-control. Comforting a friend who is upset is an early sign of empathy. Trying again after a mistake shows perseverance. These skills are more than good manners; they are building blocks for strong emotional health and academic success.
Research shows that children with strong SEL skills are better equipped to handle stress, work well with peers, and stay engaged in school. Teachers report fewer behavioral problems, and students often perform better in reading and math. SEL also helps children feel safe and connected, which increases their ability to focus on learning. In fact, the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL) found that students who received SEL instruction showed an 11 percentile-point gain in academic achievement.
How Parents Can Support SEL
While schools may teach SEL, parents are a child’s first and most important teachers. Everyday routines at home provide countless opportunities to practice these skills:
- Naming emotions when they appear, such as saying, “I can see you’re frustrated because your block tower fell.”
- Modeling calm behavior when things go wrong, like cleaning up a spill together.
- Encouraging problem-solving during conflicts, asking, “What’s a fair way you both can share?”
- Reading books that highlight emotions and discussing how characters might feel.
These small interactions send powerful messages to children about how to handle life’s challenges. To make it even easier, download the free Emotions Chart and use it during your daily routines to help your child name and manage their feelings with confidence.
Parent Tip
At bedtime, ask your child to name one feeling they had that day and how they handled it. This simple reflection builds self-awareness, encourages communication, and teaches children that emotions are normal and manageable.
SEL is not a single lesson but an ongoing process. When parents and caregivers nurture these skills early, children develop the tools they need to build confidence, connect with others, and succeed in school and beyond. By focusing on SEL at home, you give your child a foundation that will support them for a lifetime.
